Relationships

Secrets of Enduring Love from Jewel Diamond Taylor

Make memories with your loved ones. Life is too short to work so hard without balance, joy and time for family and friends. Families that pray, play and plan together will stay together.

Practice random acts of hugs, kisses, thoughtful gestures, special surprise activities,      notes, etc.

People are not yo-yos. Drop them, and they may not return. Hearts are fragile... handle with care.

Not only cherish your mate, but support them in their goals and spiritual gifts.

Love is sensual and experienced through the senses of your eyes, ears, nose and skin.  Observe whether your loved ones need to hear your love or needs you to show your love.  Of course, touch is always important for the senses.

Love comes home. Love answers the phone. Love listens. Love forgives.

Men, if you're reading this...listen a great song by Jaheim "Put That Woman First."

Women listen to Alicia Keys "When You Really Love Someone."

Love heals. Love is present. Love is patient. Love is kind.

Learn the difference between a date, soulmate, playmate and your lifemate . There is a difference between I like you, I lust you and I love you.

Marrying for money is a high price to pay.

Don't rush into physical intimacy. Build your relationship on friendship, common interests/goals, emotional and spiritual connections.

Have a life so when true love finds you...you already feel complete instead of needy and desperate.

Get your ego, pride and fears out of the way to allow true love into your life .

You can change the labels on a bottle, but it doesn't change it's content.

Don't go to the altar thinking you can alter someone.

Opposites attract. You will have many differences to resolve, accept and adapt to through the years. Choose your battles wisely.

Relationships are broken or built on little things. Here are some suggestions to build a stronger relationship:

a) Make that phone call in the middle of the day just to say, "I was just thinking of you and wondering how your day is going."

b) men open the door for your lady instead of using the remote door opener,

c) enjoy a "day off" together or give the gift of a "day off" to your mate (no phones, computer, household chores, work, just rest and pampering)

d) leave a love note on his/her voice mail or in the purse, brief case, Bible, the car dash board,

e) compliment your mate in front of others,

f) whether you are with the parent of your children or not, let your children see and hear you treating each other with respect and kindness

g) go with your lady to make sure she gets her mammogram,

h) surprise your mate and fill up his/her gas tank or wash the car,

i) Don't go to bed angry at night,

) choose your battles wisely. Some things you just need to let go. Your mate wants to come home to a castle, not a hassle.

k) even though you've been together a while, still "date" your mate. Avoid becoming unattractive, boring, lazy, forgetful and predictable.
(copy right protected excerpts from books "Success Gems", "Sisterfriends" and "You Are Too Blessed to Be Stressed" by Jewel Diamond Taylor)

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Read....You Deserve More: Desperation is a Terrible Perfume to Wear

This book is a compilation of notes and self-esteem affirmations from Jewel Diamond Diamond Taylor's Relationship seminars.  $12 per copy

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Question:

"My husband left 2 years ago. I'm dating someone now who is very nice. I am a Christian and we have not become intimate yet. My husband wants to come back but he has not changed. What should I do?"

Response:

Be careful what you pray for. You wanted your husband back in your life but he has not changed (whatever that means). You are in a danger zone right now. You cannot clearly hear God's direction for your life if your heart is considering someone else. There's nothing wrong with being alone and unattached until you are more convicted about your marriage or your divorce. Everyone is nice in the beginning stages of relationships. That's just phase one. So don't get confused my sister. You're still married. God can't get next to you when you're about to get next to someone else to fill the emptiness of loneliness, a broken heart and an empty bed.

Question:

"I AM IN THE MIDST OF A TRIAL IN MY MARRIAGE WHEREBY MY HUSBAND HAS FILED FOR DIVORCE AND I AM NOT CLEAR ON WHY.... HE HAS STATED THAT I SAID SOMETHING TO OFFEND HIM AND HE FOUND IT NECESSARY TO LEAVE. HE HAS BEEN GONE FOR 1 1/2 YEARS. I AM IN THE "STAND STILL MOOD"... ALTHOUGH I CONTINUE TO TRUST IN GOD FOR THE HEALING OF THIS MARRIAGE I GET WEAK IN MY THOUGHTS. WHAT CAN ONE DO AT A TIME WHEN YOU DON'T MOVE FORWARD.."

Response:

The opposite of denial is reality. Realize that you are now giving your power away. You're keeping yourself hostage. You are beating yourself up. His actions are speaking loudly. I'm sure he left for more reasons than you stated. Either he isn't telling you everything or your email is not telling me everything. In any case, he is gone and you're left fighting air. Depression covers anger. We sometimes become paralyzed in our grief because we are afraid to feel the pain. I know it hurts, but you must pay attention and start taking care of yourself. You may never know all the answers...but today is the day to open your eyes and ears to get yourself unstuck. Move on with your life. Acceptance doesn't mean what he did was right. Acceptance gives you permission to start breathing again. Stop standing by the door and waiting for the phone to ring. He has clearly moved on with his life. Yes, it hurts. Yes, it was immature. Yes, he broke your vows. Now you must begin to say yes to your self-esteem....yes to your self-respect...yes to your faith. Don't wish someone back into your life that does not love you or deserve you. You're in my prayers for your strength, courage, self-esteem and desire to reclaim you life.

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Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree.  The men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, THEY'RE amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.

YOU'RE A GOOD APPLE.

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The following are excerpts from Jewel Diamond Taylor's book "YOU ARE TOO BLESSED TO BE STRESSED."

Nurture your own soul so you can
attract your soul mate.
If you trust too soon,
you are probably afraid of being alone.
If you trust too superficially,
you may be easily betrayed.
If you trust too late, you may never know
about love and intimacy.

Develop faith, insights and patience to work
through your issues in your relationship.
Remember the attraction and qualities
that brought you together in the first place.

Don't let your reality check bounce.
Relationships can bring joy and pain.

That child, parent, coworker,
boss, friend, lover or spouse in your life is
not perfect and neither are you.
People are both human and divine.
Disappointments are to be expected and accepted.

Don't jump ship at the first sign of trouble.
You'll end up all alone in this world, if you never
learn forgiveness, communication, trust,
service, a sense of humor and self-esteem.

"Love is patient and kind.." 1 Corinthians 13:4
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Dedicated to those living single

JUST BECAUSE
Just because no one has been fortunate
enough to realize what a goldmine
you are, doesn't mean you shine any less.
Just because no one has been smart enough to
figure out that you can't be
topped, doesn't stop you from being the best.
Just because no one has come along to share
your life, doesn't mean that day isn't coming.
Just because no one has made this race
worthwhile, doesn't give you
permission to stop running.
Just because no one has realized how much of
awesome woman you are, doesn't mean they can affect
your femininity.
Just because no one has come to take the
loneliness away, doesn't mean you
have to settle for a lower quality.
Just because no one has shown up who can
love you on your level, doesn't
mean you have to sink to theirs.
Just because you deserve the very best there
is, doesn't mean that life is always fair.
Just because God is still preparing your
king, doesn't mean that you're not already a queen.
Just because your situation doesn't seem to
be progressing right now, doesn't mean you need to

Keep shining,
Keep running,
Keep hoping,
Keep praying,
Keep being exactly what you are already...
COMPLETE!
Keep on doing what you do best!
BEING A WOMAN OF GOD.

Author Unknown Source - On-line

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After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul.
And you learn that love doesn't mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
And presents aren't promises.
And you begin to accept your defeats with you head up and your eyes open.
With the grace of maturity, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build all your roads on
Today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans,
And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure...
that you really are strong
and that you really do have worth.
And you learn and learn and learn ....
with every good-bye you learn.
by Veronica A. Shofftstall

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