Feeling angry?

I've counseled women who have been in abusive relationships and they would be sad instead of angry.  Being sad doesn't stop the aggressor.  There are appropriate times to express your anger.  You need emotional and physical boundaries to keep people who harm you at a distance.  You can also learn to express your intense emotions in a healthy way…at the right time…to the right person…in the right way.  Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.   Anger and discontentment can also serve as internal motivation causing you to say..."Enough is enough."  This resolve can move you into action to; i. e. apply for a better job, move to a better neighborhood, improve your education, vote for better policies and politicians,  let go of crazy relationships or save your money to stop the financial stress.

There are people and things you cannot control.  Only control what you can control.  Practice deep breathing.  Notice your patterns of coping with anger.  Do you express your feelings…suppress your feelings or relax and calm yourself?  Not every one or every situation is worth the risk of acting out your anger.  Walking away from a explosive situation is not a sign of weakness ... it is sign of strength.