As my heart holds you  just one beat away  I cherish all you gave me everyday  'cause you are my forever love  watching me from up above.    And I believe that angels breathe and that love will live on and never leave. 
 
I'M FREE
Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free. I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took his hand when I heard him call.  I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day to laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way, I found that place at the close of the day.
If my parting has left a void, then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss, ah yes, these things, I too, will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow, I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full, I savored much, good friends, good times, a loved one's touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all to brief; don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me, God wanted me now, He set me free.
 
"A loved one is a treasure of the heart and to lose a loved one is like losing a piece of yourself.
But the love that this person brought you...did not leave, for the essence of the soul lingers.
It cannot escape your heart, for it has been there forever.
 
Cling to the memories and let them find their way to heal you.
The love and laughter, the joy in the togetherness you shared...will make you strong.
You'll come to realize that your time together, no matter how long, was meant to be,
and that you were blessed to have such a precious gift of love in your life.
 
Keep your heart beating with the loving memories and trust in your faith to guide you through.
Know that though life moves on...the beauty of love stays behind to surround and embrace you.
Your loved one has left you that...to hold in your heart forever." ~ Debbie Burton-Peddle
 
I Believe
Skip Ewing/Donny Kees

Every now and then soft as breath upon my skin
I feel you come back again
And itís like you havenít been gone a moment from my side
Like the tears were never cried
Like the hands of time are holding you and me
And with all my heart Iím sure weíre closer than we ever were
I donít have to hear or see, Iíve got all the proof I need
There are more than angels watching over me
I believe, I believe

Chorus
That when you die your life goes on
It doesnít end here when youíre gone
Every soul is filled with light
It never ends and if Iím right
Our love can even reach across eternity
I believe, I believe

Forever, youíre a part of me
Forever, in the heart of me
And Iíll hold you even longer if I can
The people who donít see the most
Say that I believe in ghosts
And if that makes me crazy, then I am
ĎCause I believe

There are more than angels watching over me
I believe, I believe

"To Where You Are"

Who can say for certain
Maybe you're still here
I feel you all around me
Your memory's so clear

Deep in the stillness
I can hear you speak
You're still an inspiration
Can it be (?)
That you are my
Forever love
And you are watching over me from up above

Fly me up to where you are
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile to know you're there
A breath away is not far
To where you are

Are you gently sleeping
Here inside my dream
And isn't faith believing
All power can't be seen

As my heart holds you
just one beat away
I cherish all you gave me everyday
'Cause you are my
forever love
watching me from up above.

And I believe
that angels breathe
and that love will live on and never leave.

Fly me up
to where you are
beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
to see you smile
if only for awhile
to know you're there
a breath away's not far
to where you are.

I know you're there
a breath away's not far
to where you are.

 ~ sung by Josh Groban, music by Richard Marx, lyrics by Linda Thompson

 

"Death comes into the room and leaves an awful silence. 

Loss is never welcomed or convenient.   The time of grief is lonesome, stressful and awkward.  You feel betrayed, confused and as if someone hit you in the stomach.   You need great patience with your slow healing heart.  You are angry one moment and sad the next moment.   May the Lord show you His tender mercies, strength and peace in the days ahead.  May He surround you with the love and comfort of family and friends.

As much as we would like to avoid loss and the unpleasantness in our lives, sometimes it is inescapable.  Instead, we must learn how to grieve in healthy ways and work through our difficulties. 

 

Much of the emotional distress during the early stages of grief results from an identity crisis.   You ask yourself, "Who am I now?  I'm no longer someone's daughter or wife or best friend.  Where do I get my strength from now?  Who will know me like my loved one who is gone too soon?  Who do I say I am now? ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

 

"I will not forget you.  I have carved you on the palm of my hand."  ó Isaiah 49:15

 

"Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted."  Matthew 5:4

 

Vulnerability to death is one of the given conditions of life.
We can't explain it any more than we can explain life itself.
We can't control it, or sometimes even postpone it.
All we can do is try to rise beyond the question,
"Why did it happen?"and begin to ask the question,
"What do I do now that it has happened?"

-- Harold S. Kushner, in
When Bad Things Happen to Good People

Possible Normal Emotional Symptoms:

∑ Things seem unreal.
∑ You may feel distant from others, and it may seem as if no one really cares about you or understands what itís like
∑ Loss of meaning in life.
∑ Crying is healthy and important in healing.  Keeping from crying might cause health problems later. Nature gave us tears to ease the stress of life. Men, especially, can have difficulty crying, because they have been taught not to cry. They do, and itís normal and healthy.


Feelings Sometimes Associated with Grief and Mourning:

Shock and numbness (a normal way to react to the news of a death)
∑ Guilt (ďif onlyísĒ are natural and need to be expressed)
∑ Anger (often weíre taught not to feel angry, but anger is a normal feeling and needs to be accepted and expressed Ė in a non-destructive way)
∑ Depression (at times, loneliness and lack of motivation may occur for you Ė donít worry, at some point the motivation will return)
∑ Relief (it is a normal feeling, especially when the deceased suffered before death, or in a sudden death, where there was no suffering).



Suggestions:

∑ Avoid use of drugs and alcohol Ė they usually stop or delay grief (which means youíll need to face the feelings about the death later on)
∑ Avoid hasty decisions about the belongings of the deceased
∑ Put off any major decisions (i.e.: moving, financial investments, etc.)
∑ Even though your patience may wear thin, try letting others know what you need and how to help you (giving them this hand-out may help them to understand you better)
∑ Gather strength from people who wonít judge or advise you and are available for emotional support.

Someone asked me about you today.
It's been so long since anyone has done that.
It felt so good to talk about you,
to share my memories of you,
to simply say your name out loud.
She asked me if I minded talking about
what happened to you ó 
or would it be too painful to speak of it.
I told her I think of it every day
and speaking about it helps me to release
the tormented thoughts whirling around in my head.
She said she never realized the pain
would last this long.
She apologized for not asking sooner.
I told her, "Thanks for asking."
I don't know if it was curiosity
or concern that made her ask,
But told her, "Please do it again sometime ó 
soon."

ó Barbara Taylor Hudson

What does "letting go" mean?
This phrase is often misunderstood.
Does it mean forgetting, letting go of our memories?
Not at all.
Does it mean letting go of a relationship with our deceased loved ones?
No!
Our relationship is changed, not ended.
"Letting go" refers to the time in our healing journey
when we are ready to gently open our tightly closed fists.
In doing so we let go of our pain.
We do not need it anymore.

-- Sandi Caplan and Gordon Lang,
in
Grief's Courageous Journey: A Workbook

 

Noted author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia tells of a four-year-old boy who lived next door to an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.
One day the child saw the man sitting on his porch in a rocking chair, and noticed that he was crying.
The little boy walked over to the manís porch, made his way up the steps and climbed onto the old gentlemanís lap. 
Without saying a word, he just sat there.
Later, when his mother asked him what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy answered, "Nothing, I just helped him cry."

 

We must acknowledge the fact 
that the entire world suffers; 
woundedness exists with every people of every culture; 
we all experience pain, suffering, and death. 
There are many people who have had divorces. 
There are many people who have had job losses. 
There are many people who have had loved ones die. 
There are many people with mental and physical handicaps. 
There are many people who have experienced violence and abuse. 
We all have problems; we all have wounds. 
Besides acknowledging the existence of our shared woundedness, 
we have to also acknowledge the potential 
for some gain from that shared woundedness. 
There are things we can learn from our own woundedness 
and there are things we can learn from the woundedness of others. 
We can grow in the midst of the world's woundedness; 
we can learn from the world's woundedness; 
we can heal through the world's woundedness . . .
Hospice affirms the value of woundedness, 
the value of woundedness in general 
and the value of one particular universally shared wound, 
our inevitable death. 
The modern loss of awareness of woundedness, 
especially our shared wound of death, 
is very different from the attitude present 
in our spiritual traditions. 
Many spiritual traditions 
have actually been founded upon, 
and centered around, 
the principle of facing the reality of death. 
It is the premise of these spiritual traditions 
that if we in fact face our woundedness (individual and mutual), 
especially facing death, 
we will end up leading a much fuller life 
than we normally do.

ó Douglas C. Smith, in Being a Wounded Healer: 
How to Heal Ourselves While We Are Healing Others

Remember that it won't always feel this bad.  
Somehow it does change.
It does get better.
At the moment, take heart from those around you
who want to care for you
and be present for you in your distress. 
They don't always know how,
they don't always do it right,
but they try. 
Sorrow is a matter of taking turns. 
This year, it's yours. 
Next year, it might be you
setting the table for someone else
who feels that they cannot cope.

-- Deidre Felton

The truest words of all: I will not forget you.
You are in my waking thoughts,
my sweetest memories, my dearest dreams.
I will not forget you.
You have touched my soul, opened my eyes,
changed my very experience of the universe. 
I will not forget you.
I see you in the flowers, the sunset,
the sweep of the horizon
and all things that stretch to infinity. 
I will not forget you.
I have carved you on the palm of my hand.
I carry you with me forever.

ó Ellen Sue Stern, Living with Loss, 1995

When Does Grief End?

Grief hits us like a ton of bricks,
flattens us like a steamroller,
hurls us into the depths of despair. 
We know in a flash when grief hits,
but when does it end? 
Like the month of March,
grief rushes in like a lion
and tiptoes out like a lamb. 
Sometimes, we don't know when grief leaves,
because we won't let go of the lion's tail.
Why do we hold on so long? 
Grief offers us safety,
protection from the world. 
We don't want to let go
because we secretly fear
that we'll forget our loved ones,
and we don't want to forget Ė ever. 
We don't want to let go
because we fear the future
and having to face life without our loved ones.
We don't want to let go
because we make the mistake
of measuring our grief with the depth of our love Ė
when neither has anything to do with the other.
How do we know when grief has run its course? 
How do we know when we've grieved enough? 
Cried enough? 
"Died" enough? 
How do we know when it's time to let go of the tail? 
We know when we feel joy again, in something or someone. 
Joy in living.  Joy in life. 
We know when we wake up in the morning
and our first thought is on something other than our loss. 
We know when we look ahead with a smile
and back with fond memories,
and when we no longer dread the nights. 
We know when our life starts filling up with new interests and people,
and we start reaching for the stars
Grief ends when we let go of the tail.

Margareet Brownley,
"When Does Grief End?"
Bereavement Magazine , January/February 2002
 

There You Are
By Martina McBride

There you are in the early light of day
There you are in the quiet words I pray
I've been blessed by the simple happiness
Of the perfect love we've made

Every time I turn around
When I'm lost and when I'm found
Like an angel standing guard
There you are


Every time I take a breath and when I forget to breathe
You're watching over me there you are
When I'm looking for the light in the middle of the night
Searching for the brightest star
There you are

There you are in standing in a crowded room
There you are the earth and I'm the moon
My desire is to stand by the fire
That burns inside of you

Every time I turn around
When I'm lost and when I'm found
Like an angel standing guard
There you are

Every time I take a breath and when I forget to breathe
You're watching over me there you are
When I'm looking for the light in the middle of the night
Searching for the brightest star
There you are
 

9/18/2003
I'll Be Seeing You
by Cindi Thomson

I'll be seeing you
Hey don't forget your coat
I'll be seeing you
Feels like it's turning cold

I hate that you're leaving
With so much unsaid and
This strange empty feeling
Won't let me forget
That I'll be seeing you

I'll be seeing you
Oh, that beautiful smile
I'll be seeing you
Sure as I'm seeing you now

Around every corner
Wherever I go
Every moment of everyday
Darling I know
That I'll be seeing you

I'll be seeing you
Oh the nights I've cried
But maybe, just maybe
In time, I'll be fine

I'll be seeing you
When I close my eyes
I'll be seeing you
I've got you memorized

I'll always love you
I know you know that
And I know that in my heart
That you're not coming back
But in everything I do

I'll be seeing you...
 

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